I made a 3 day rule…

When you are in a relationship, thinking about yourself all the time becomes a thing of the past. You make sacrifices and agreements which work with you and your partner, all of which have to be fair to both sides.

I have always found in relationships I’m always the one with the lower sex drive, which at times can take its toll on my partner which in turn has led to several arguments which were unnecessary. This has happened several times for me now, that’s when I came up with the 3-day rule. This ensures my partner that I will not leave him waiting longer than 3 days for sex and it also gives me 2 days where I know if I’m not feeling in the mood I won’t have him pestering for sex. In the first 2 days, he has to leave me to go to him if I want it and on the third day that is when he is able to approach me knowing at some point he will get it that day. The only time this rule doesn’t count is when I’m not feeling well and he knows that when I have sex when I’m unwell it will only make me feel worse. Even then I will always offer to help him out and get his release if he really feels he needs it.

This is something that works amazingly for my relationship. It has reduced any arguments we have. I feel like being like this makes things less stressful for me as I know my sex drive isn’t as high as my partners and it gets to the point where I do feel bad but with this rule, it makes it fair for us both and I don’t feel like I had to do it, I’m more willing as there have been no arguments and I’ve not been asked for days.

Would you think of ever doing anything like this?

Kelly Louise

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What’s In My Bag…

I’ve always been a fan of being nosey into someone else’s bag. I love to see if it’s not just me who can’t keep my bag clean all the time. However, after I’d taken the pictures for this post it gave me the excuse to clean it instead of putting every little thing back into my bag.  So instead of me being nosey into someone else’s bag it’s time for you to have a little nosey into what I keep in my bag,

In my bag I have;

  • A water bottle, I do always try and keep one in there.
  • A Hogwarts pad, very helpful when I’m at work at blog ideas come into my head.
  • Sweets.
  • Nail Glue
  • Hair Brush
  • Hedex Tablets
  • 4 pens and a pencil
  • 3 Sets of keys. Car keys, work keys and keys to my parent’s house.
  • 2 Lighters and a packet of cigarettes (I do hope to stop this year!)
  • A makeup bag
  • My purse
  • And lastly my glasses, they are a must-have.

In my makeup bag I have:

  • Soap and Glory hand food.
  • Cuticura hand sanitizer
  • Tampons because it’s better to be safe than sorry.
  • Impulse spray
  • More tablets and some Orajel as I was suffering from a toothache
  • 5 different lip products –  2 Maybelline lip crayons, 2 Revlon lipglosses and 1 Revlon lipstick

What’s the one thing that you always need to have in your bag?

Kelly Louise

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I decided the pill was no longer for me..

When starting on contraception it’s always a big thing as to whether it will be the right one for you and how would your body react to it. There are so many to choose from and the best way to find out what is best for you is simply just to try it and if it’s not that move onto something else.

When I first started on the pill 3 years ago I never realised some of the effects it would have on me and my body. After two years of taking Micrognon, I started to suffer really bad headaches, which saw me take a trip the to opticians after several doctors appointments and then telling me it could just be my eyes, no mention that the pill could cause this. I did find out I needed glasses but the headaches were still as consistent as ever. So back to the doctors it was for me and I put the question to them if it could be the pill which one doctor told me it more than likely was if I’d had my eyes tested and they weren’t helping. They then put me on the mini pill Cerelle, which only made things worse for me. The headaches on days would ease up but my mood swings made me unapproachable from time to time, which meant these were having a bad knock on effect with my friendships and relationships. Not what I wanted. It really got the point where it was time to make a decision my health and relationships weren’t worth the battle I was having when taking the pill.

Coming off the pill was a big decision to make as I know this wouldn’t only affect me it would affect my partner too as I didn’t want to test any other form of birth control. We had sat down last year and have a discussion about the topic and the possible results it could have (me being pregnant). This was something we both were willing to accept as this year at some point we would start trying anyway. I have been off the pill for over 5 months now I felt this is the right time to write this post up as I know that the pill should be completely out of my body now. I took just over 3 months for my period to return. Read More